Of Anniversaries and bad behaviour

What happens when you forget your best friend's birthday?

You could end up in her `shit-list’(learn new thing everyday), like me.

Anyway, I guess it’s deemed bad behaviour when you forget someone (close to you)’s birthday…

After realising my absolutely fatalistic mistake for not keeping a `birthdays alarm’ (second new word learned today), I tried to analyse whether I should be consumed by guilt for offending my best buddy with my stupid mistake of not having a memory on such important occasion.

But then again, I can’t deny that birthdays and other anniversaries have little significance to me. So I guess the question now is, am I evil because I did not respect my best friend’s perception of the importance of birthdays? You see, the impression I got when the announcement came that I’m on the shit list was that I deserve to be on it because I allowed myself to forget that date.

Something wrong with me? Do I need social engineering?

The world I know in general, celebrates birthdays, wedding anniversaries, Christmas, dating anniversaries, death anniversaries, Valentine’s day, etc. No wonder I feel like I’m the idiot who think otherwise…everyone gives a damn but me? I can’t be normal when everyone else is acting the other.

Or would I be forgiven and be excused for having my own perception on the importance of these dates and the acceptable behaviour on the subject of birthdays…?

Perhaps I just gotta figure out a way to strike a balance between keeping my own ways with things and cohabiting with people I chose to live with in my social circle. To have things and want things my own way can also be seemed as `selfish’.

While I think it is damn silly to hold on to the birthday thing, I can’t impose it to others to think like me. You can’t agree, you have to respect and accept.

Other things I don’t give a damn to: (don’t mean to sound superior or arrogant, it’s just something I have to say, in the name of freedom of choice)

Expensive and extravagant Chinese 8-course dinners for weddings and such (especially those tasteless hotel food)
Award-winning TV serials
TV
Diamond rings
Owing the latest hand phones
Hollywood flicks
Da Vincci code
Seafood
Meat products

But in the meantime, I stay in the shit list.