The People Connector

If SM is the connection specialist, then I'm the underdog...I specialize in the non-commercial people-connection services.

When A is having trouble getting along with B, I get roped in to try and help things.

If C is wondering how is D doing because D is staying a bit low profile for a while, C would ask me to check in on D.

Or when I feel that X and Y are having a undesirable way of communicating, I somehow would be doing some third party work, or what my dad would call the `kay-po' work.

And of course, being bilingual helps. I assist in the conversations between the Mandarin-speaking and the English-speaking...when Y is talking to Z, Y would look at/to me for some sort of reassurance, and Z would make sure that her reply to Y is accurate by having me translate Y's reply.

Yea, basically I'm the kay-po in the group...I'm hardly the nice one among friends but I get recognition for `coming out' for others.

Not all my `accounts' are success but some I'm proud of. CM told me recently that sometimes we need to just let things (to do with people) be and meddle less with the affairs of people...when I feel that there's too much unnecessary and unspoken feelings between people.

Most of the time I would target to empty what's on my mind about other people. I rather they know what's eating me up about them and see anything can be helped, than me having to deal with them without trying to change a thing.

I try to evaluate if a certain (of my) opinion is OK to be expressed at a certain time, of course I have had many mishaps, that's why I'm called insensitive-outspoken...etc.

Coming out clean doesn't't work all the time -- when was the last time you tell someone who is fat and lazy to quit being fat and lazy? You tell me.

Or have you ever attempted giving your boss a piece of your mind about the way he or she works?

Well I guess one way or a time to do it maybe after you resign...hehe. I can only tell you that it's real satisfaction when you let things off your chest, in the other person's face. I love confrontations like that. Some say I like challenges...well, all of us like some sort of challenges sometimes, don't we all?

Well you better make sure you do it gently and lather on as much soap as possible, most obnoxious, fat and lazy people can't take your advice or opinion constructively.

Or maybe you can just do it the way you like it, in their faces, and burn all bridges.

Oh, one piece of advice, NEVER blog about what you want to tell these people in your blog...you might get fired too.

....connecting people, I found out today that some of my friends were connecting at some drinkie outing, without me, the connector, looks like my services have paid off, people are connecting fine these days...without the connector, hurray.