from another blog...

Welcome to Jikon Lai.com

SM recommended reading the entries at Jikon's site, another person who's going through a separation. The post entitled [Remembering], dd Sep 9.

He posted a reader's comment there, reads like this:

"The situation you find yourself in was one that i had put someone else in. It's been almost two years and i still punish myself by wondering each day how she is and regretting the pain i caused her. All that you have blogged on your feelings in the aftermath...I'm sure she shares/d. I hope your ex is reading your blog. As the dump-er, it serves as a reality check for the raw pain that one decision can inflict, no matter how rational and justified the reasoning. - from a reader"