Happily unmarried

We want to prove to the world that there is a better way of doing things.
That merely following tradition for the sake of tradition is pointless.
We are making a statement.
We are trying to be role models here.
We won't succumb to things to do just because everybody else does it or expects us to.

We eat because we're hungry.
We sleep because we're tired.
We go to the market because we need to buy something.
We save money for a rainy day or to renovate our apartment.
You don't eat meat because you don't want to kill animals or at least minimise the killings as much as you can.
I eat fish because I like the taste and I think it's healthier than red meat.

--- J

To most people getting married is the most natural thing to do for two person deeply in love. Don't you think it's most natural to you simply because for centuries people from all over the world have been doing it? "Something can't be wrong when the whole damn world is at it!" you think...

Well, I'm bold enough to say that even the whole world thinks it's wrong to not want to get married, I could be right to hold my stand that there's nothing wrong with not doing what everyone else is doing.

Just coz the whole civilization has been doing it it doesn't make it the best thing for everyone. It's an institution created by societies and engineered by the same people who believe in the system.

I believe in the system of love, bonding and trust and it's going to take me down the road to blissful romance for a long long time.

I love you J and I want to grow old with you just as the way you want with me. Happy un-married to us.

further reading -

Look who’s happily unmarried -By Rory Evans

A world with no divorce… As Grist points out, one of the greatest benefits of being part of an unmarried relationship is that “people are happy about defining themselves outside an institution and all its baggage,” she says. After all, unmarried relationships tend to defy the stereotypes that plague marriage and keep the sitcom writers busy. “There’s a real sense of independence separate from how marriage gets defined.” It’s not such a trivial concept, considering that Oprah Winfrey — the very woman behind the worldwide brand — essentially admitted to not marrying Stedman Graham for fear of losing her own identity and devoted an entire show to “unmarriage.”