our brain

I read in a book that our human brains are one of the biggest among mammals, and that homo sapien is the only species that take the longest time to be independent from our parents after being born...some of us never get independent.

The book also says that one of the main functions for our Big brain is for gossiping. Surprise? Apparently the act of gossip keeps us in check of our behaviour. We are more cautious to do good and behave because we know people gossip.

So gossip is great for maintaining a society, ?

But my gripe today is, from track records and countless incidents that happen to us and among friends, it's proven that we spend too much time, wasted too much resources (our energy, focus, time, emails, electricity...etc) over misunderstanding.

Hours of heart pouring chats, consoling, revenge, holding grudges, therapy sessions...over innocent but disastrous incidents or mishaps, of over-assumptions, speculative minds and private conclusions made up in our heads.

I have been reminded that, each time we look outward to judge someone's behaviour, or to judge someone, we should first look inward at ourselves - are we any better? Are we fit to judge? Should we?

Aouummm :)